Neighborhood Notes

(Written from one of my fave coffeeshops!)

The end of summer is inching closer, fall is just around the corner, and the holidays will soon be upon us. Did you have a summer of love? If yes, keep up the good work. If not, help is on the way! We're starting our dating series, so stay tuned the next couple of weeks, because we're going to create a plan and a system—who wants to spend the holidays alone? Besides, the weather will change soon and nothing beats a warm snuggle, right?

Your homework...

Take some time and jot down some notes on what has worked, or not worked for you, in past relationships. Look for common themes, patterns and attractions to those intimate partners. Then, take some time and think about the roadblocks standing between you and a successful relationship.

Be a voyeur in your own life: think about your story as if it were someone else's. I recommend writing your dating history and then setting it aside. Next, think about the strongest positive and negative attributes of your parents. Write this down too and then set it all aside for a day. Then, compare your dating history with the positive/negative attributes of your parents—is there any connection?

Read this a day later (No cheating! Stop reading!)

Did you learn anything about yourself and how/why you pick your partners? Most people find some connection between their past partners and their parents—it's okay! It's not always the best news (OMG! I'm dating my Dad! Ewwww...), and this process is not always fun, but, the reward can be worth it. Believe me, I know! Sometimes we just pick the wrong person. It's a simple case of a broken partner picker.

I believe there is someone for everyone; we just need to be date and relationship ready. Are you ready? Do the homework. Next week, share your insights, if you can, and we'll repair your partner picker. Then, we'll work on that system.

Until next week.....

Read the first "Love in the City" article.